Milk drunk

December 7, 2009

The hand flops limp in an abandoned sprawl

As the mother shifts the baby to its bed

A brief moment of wakefulness and it seeks around

And touches the soft fabric of mom’s shirt

Clutching that precious bit of mom

Reassured, falls limp again

As only one with a full stomach and dry bottom can

When he has spent his waking moments striving to be his best

An enterprising baby is now a satisfied baby

And heads off into whatever baby dream worlds exist

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Happy birthday mom

December 7, 2009

I haven’t posted in a while, as I was busy with all kinds of stuff. Not easy being a mom-cum-businesswoman-cum-housewife-cum-webmaster. I’m not very good with prioritizing, and tend to forget about one thing when I become engrossed with another.

Coming to the sharing in this post, it was my birthday. For Nisarga, it was his mom’s first birthday.

We celebrated in a very special way – it was just the two of us at home. My mother-in-law was in Pune and so was my husband. Aakash went out somewhere in the evening, and my baby and I spent some time celebrating.

First, we watched the jamun tree outside the window for a while. Then, we put on some songs and danced. And finally, we had a laughing session.

Yesterday, hereally laughed out loud. Till then, he used to make sounds, but they were shaky and didn’t really sound like laughs. Yesterday, we laughed a lot and they sounded like laughs, and this guy found everything I did funny.

What a wonderful birthday gift!!!

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Signing wave at less than three months?

November 30, 2009

Okay, I think this guy is a budding signer. But then I think he’s awesome at everything, so….

I’d been showing him the sign for wave (among many other signs). Most of the time, he just stares blankly and there is no way to know if he even is getting anything out of it. Other times, he gives these delighted grins because he likes me making nice, exaggerated actions. Nothing remotely like comprehension.

And then he goes and does something that totally blows me away. I was showing him words on the computer, and when the word wave was read out, he opened his fingers wide. Okay, not what we call a wave, but exactly what happened with milk happened thi time. On some unconscious level, I must have realized he was making that action with regard to “wave”, because I spoke with him as though he was doing it on purpose.

That was just babble.

Then, I was fooling around with him, and I waved my hand around, and he opened his fingers wide again.

Then this morning, when his massage woman was leaving, we do this thing where she says by to him, and I get him to stick his tongue out. He did it. She kept saying “ta-ta”, and nothing.

Later, I was telling my MIL about how I think he signs wave at times, and the minute I said wave, he opened his fingers wide again!!!

Not bad for my smart baby *brag* He will be three months old after two days.

So apparently, he understands the word “wave” and the action as opening his hand (haven’t really seen him waving it), but doesn’t understand its meaning. Doesn’t understand that we wave bye to people – guess why? We’ve never waved bye to people – I only show him the signs – I don’t use them for him….. He also doesn’t understand “ta-ta” is the same as wave.

So, what I need to do is wave hi and bye to people myself for him to see the context for his new trick.

Categories: baby development, baby sign language.

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Funny Little Baby

November 28, 2009
Baby playing in his cradle

Baby playing in his cradle

I was working at something on the computer, when Nisarga’s piercing wail scared me to bits. I jumped from my chair and rushed to him in record time. Imagine what this guy’s problem was?

He had woken up quietly and was playing on his own, I guess. These days, he grabs the rods on the side of the cradle. I found him like that, holding the rod strongly, and trying very hard to move his hand, crying in fear because it was stuck!!!

I opened his tiny fist from the rod and his hand shot free. I had earned myself a teary smile.

Bad, bad cradle had trapped my precious child :D

Categories: Daily Life, Humour, infant.

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Evolving toys

November 27, 2009
Toys that encourage children to understand their workings are becoming rarer

Toys that encourage children to understand their workings are becoming rarer

I have joined a toy library for Nisarga. They have toys and books and stuff. Its started by a friend and I can get flashcards, and books, all kinds of toys and stuff for him, without investing in space in my home. Its quite great actually, and surprisingly affordable. She operates it only two days a week, but its enough. No point changing toys everyday.

Oh, if you live near Borivali West, you may want to check it out. I hesitate to give out her contact information without permission, but if you comment here, I can email you her information.

Anyway, coming to the original reason for the post. Every time I go to the toy library, I’m fascinated with the kinds of toys on offer. Big, child friendly books, colourful toys of incredible variety, developmental toys suitable to encourage children to explore emerging abilities….. I felt like a kid in a chocolate shop. All this stuff was unheard of when I grew up.

Perhaps I’m a little intimidated by the variety, perhaps I’m a little overwhelmed, like a buffet of so many varieties of food, all delicious, but only so much place on my place, and so much appetite. I found myself missing the simplicity of options of my childhood. There were toys for physical dexterity. There were toys that built knowledge, there were toys that encouraged creativity…… but not a single toy that encouraged curiosity. Our world is getting increasingly obsessed with skill building, and moving away from questions that are unanswered. I found myself wishing for toys that not just encourage ability, but toys that encourage curiosity.

While it is important to answer questions that a child asks and create a diversity of knowledge, I believe that it if you really want your child to grow “more” than you, or to the best of his abilities, he needs to develop a curiosity for what lies beyond his horizons. It may be about how gymnasts train, or what extreme cold feels like, or what infinity is like for simple stuff, or even what would be the physics of black holes. He needs to be exposed to more questions he doesn’t know the answer to, can’t easily get answers to, I don’t know the answers to, and perhaps even those no one, not even experts can explain…..

Didn’t find anything designed for this, though I guess everything can be used for that, but then I don’t need toys for it, right? I realized that the world is changing. The nature of toys reflects that. I realized that like any other aspect of life, if I want change, I will have to create it.

Maybe its time for a new business.

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Ant problem and baby

November 26, 2009

Okay, I managed to solve this almost as soon as it happened at our place, but I think the solution will be of interest to many.

I had just come home from the hospital, and was horrified to realize that the milk so nutrition filled for my baby attracted ants, and the infant always smelled of milk, even if I wiped him. And honestly, I rarely found the energy to wash his face and wipe him after night feedings, which initially were like three times every night. While we didn’t have ants in the bedroom, we did have them in the living room and kitchen.

Every time Nisarga cried, I would think the ants are biting the baby. I would strip him to check if there was an ant on him. While I never found a bite on him, I did find an ant or two quite a few times. I became so obsessed with this, that I would wake up several times in the night to check before he cried, and all the day and surround his bed with the insect stick lines to keep them out.

With a mother in law obsessed with religious ritual, which meant much of the food related part of the kitchen was out of reach for us, and with her poor eyesight and even lesser energy for waging the war it would take, our house was a virtual ant sanctuary. Often, her picking him up would give him an ant or two, since she was always in the kitchen. There was no way I could sensitively say don’t pick up your grandchild, and there was no way to expect her to find every ant on her body, when she couldn’t really see them. I found myself reluctant to take the baby out of the bedroom at all.

Initially, I called up PCI and got them to do the house. The man admitted then and there that while these ants would die, they are persistent and would return in other ways later and that we would have to keep calling them to get rid of them each time.

Unacceptable. With that crucial relief from ants, even if it was temporary, I set off in search of a better solution. I didn’t want to go for chemical solutions with a baby in the house, who would soon begin crawling and putting stuff in his mouth.

I didn’t want to wait for ants to build to critical limits before doing something for them, and it didn’t make sense to keep spraying all the time. Now what. I searched online and found information about boric acid bait and tried it. It took a lot of experimenting, but it worked.

I didn’t even bother with repelling ants, since it was quite clear that they would simply find another way to get in. So if you want the mumbo jumbo advice like cinnamon, pepper, vinegar and what not, this may not be so useful. Though vinegar (or soap water and other similar stuff) can help in the setting limits stage of preparations.

Here are steps you can easily follow:

The Preparation Stage

  1. Cleanliness: You think its clean, but its not. Really, look at parts of your cooking stove you don’t normally look, near the fridge, that time you ate chips on the sofa…… CLEAN!!!
  2. Set limits: Use simple insect chalk – laxman rekha variety everywhere food is accessible. On the shelf around the base of your sugar tin, around the base of the utensils of the lunch you have prepared and kept ready or left over food, store food stuff in airtight containers or plastic sip lock bags.  What you are doing is ensuring that ants will not find food in your home. Spraying vinegar on areas with food you don’t want ants accessing works well too, but you really have to do it often.
  3. Block invitations: If you can find the places the ants are entering your home, treat them. Fill holes and cracks, spray vinegar….
  4. Feed ‘em: Now that you have removed food sources, put out delicious bait for them. Instructions below

Effective boric acid ant bait

An inexpensive, non-toxic (the quantities we use it in) and very effective ant bait is boric acid (yep, that carom board powder) mixed with something that attracts the ants. The idea is for the ants to really feast on it, pack it home, and feed everybody there. These are the guys that regular pest control doesn’t touch, and they keep on mass producing the disposable workers that we see who get killed in the pest control. Boric powder is a slow acting poison, so the ants live to take it back to feed everyone, and as they get on a diet of this bait, the whole colony dies.

The trick is in what will attract them. Here are some tips from my experimenting:

  • Sugar water is widely recommended. It works, but usually, the solution we create is not concentrated enough. Think water being only half the volume of sugar and you’ve got it right. Dissolving happens faster if you simply cook the whole thing.
  • Milk works well too. Just mix with enough boric acid to make a paste.
  • Eggs are superb if you are okay with them in your house. Just scramble them really watery and they are an ant magnet. The ants will finish every bit of the egg you put out for them.
  • Honey
  • Peanut butter
  • Jam
  • Flour
  • Bread soaked in milk, sugar water or honey laced with plenty of boric powder.

The list can be endless. My most favourite were the eggs and sugar water (once I learned to make it right). Basically, you can use absolutely anything that the ants are eating. In fact, a good way is if you find ants infesting anything, not to destroy them, but contaminate it with the powder, and let the feast continue.

Where to bait

Three kinds of places, really, but they can keep changing:

  • Next to any entry point you find. Ants in the home rarely have accessible nests, but you can see them coming out of a crack or hole, etc. Plug that hole, and put bait next to it. Returning ants will find it, and get home through an alternate route. In the meanwhile, you have blocked one entry. This will work even if you don’t plug the hole, and they can carry it straight home.
  • Next to an ant line. Ants travel in lines once they find a food source. Place your bait next to it, and they will swarm all over it in seconds. If you can find the food they are getting to and destroy that source, even better.
  • On surfaces where there are scouts. This may even mean your kitchen table or cooking platform. The boric acid bait is relatively harmless for non-insects like you and me and the kitchen surfaces are always hot spots for scouts. Finish cooking/eating, clean up the surface and place your bait on it and scouts will find it. Scouts are single ants travelling seemingly meaninglessly. They are searching for food sources. We offer them our bait as one. Check out their behaviour. They will travel randomly, find food and head straight home most of the time. Then, you will see ants heading for your bait and within minutes, you will have a full fledged ant-line leading to your bait and hogging and packing it away.

How much Boric Acid to use

This depends on the quantity of food material you are putting out. I’d say a teaspoon of boric powder to a tablespoon of bait works. If you find ants feasting for over a day with no seeming change in numbers, increase the amount of powder. If you find the area littered with dead ants, decrease the powder, because then they are dying without getting home. Some people say too much boric powder can repel them. I haven’t experienced this, but if it happens, use egg for baiting. I haven’t seen an ant that will not eat egg bait and egg has enough of a “delicious” smell of its own to mask any boric acid odor (it doesn’t really have a smell) and tempt the most suspicious ant.

Troubleshooting

  1. No ants are coming to my bait: You go to them, don’t feel shy! Read above “Where to place your ant bait”. If you can’t find the ants to do that, your ants may have perished. We shall mourn their sad demise. This is rather fun.
  2. My ants aren’t eating my bait: Switch baits. If you are using sugar water, make sure it is concentrated enough. Look at what type of food the ants are eating (sugary, protein, oily, starchy…) and use that. Better still, use the food the ants already attacked. You were going to throw it anyway, right? If its already infested, you can simply sprinkle the powder liberally on it without disturbing the ants. Get around to mixing it when they slow or if they avoid.
  3. My ants are thriving: Increase the ratio of boric acid to food stuff in your bait.
  4. My ant bait is not working and if I put any more boric acid, they die right there. I’m sorry to say, its likely that you are killing the ones you have and getting reinfected. Has never happened to me, but I’ve heard it can happen if the area around your home has large ant populations. Its extremely unlikely in cities and appartments, though if you are on the ground floor, it still might happen. Go right back to the preparation stage and block entry points for ants into your home. Draw insect chalk lines on the outside of doors and windows and even better, spray the outside walls of your home with insect poison.

End result?

We are overjoyed to announce that our ant sanctuary has closed down and ants are now an endangered species in our home.

You don’t have to do the obsessive preparation stage all the time. They are a boost for quick results if you have a lot of ants, or are a panicked mother like I was. General cleanliness should mostly be enough along with using insect chalk to prevent if you do spot ants getting to food.

Also, quick results will not be like a pesticide spray – instant. It can take up to a week for the ants to go away. Longer if your house is badly infected. If your house is really badly infectd , it might be a good idea to use vinegar spray first to get some breathing space while you use your bait in non-sprayed areas. Obviously bait will not work if you’ve got vinegar sprayed around it and the ants can’t get to it.

Gross as it may sound to one reading it, it is quite exciting when you get around to doing it. I have spent hours fascinated watching the behaviour of the ants while I did this. They really are quite intelligent, and I quite respect how efficient they are. However, I had this motherly joy in me as I saw them systematically destroyed.

So, what about you? How did you deal with your ants? Did you use any of these ideas? How did it work for you? Is there a problem you encountered that just will not get solved? Tell me, I would just like to hear all about it.

No one messes with my baby, not even an army of ants!

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Mother's love is extra blind

November 26, 2009
Nisarga signed milk at 2.5 months!!! What a smart baby!

Nisarga signed milk at 2.5 months!!! What a smart baby!

Okay, this is what happened.

I was sitting at the computer, working on this site with Nisarga behind me fast asleep. I realized he was awake when I heard his usual shout “aaae”. I turned around and spoke with him, and he responded with a huge grin. I could literally see the bulb light in his mind that he can call me.

The more I spoke, the more thrilled he was. Huge grins, cooing, laughing out loud, the works. One happy excited baby. I immediately got my video camera out to record it.

Like any self-respecting baby, he chooses when to show-off, and this wasn’t it. The more I tried, the quieter he became. So I put the phone away, and took him out to the living room to his grandmother, thinking that he would once again start smiling with all the attention. His grandmother heard, and was delighted, and we spent another 10-15 minutes or so trying to get him to laugh. No go.

Finally, he started whimpering, and we realized that he was probably hungry. So I took him in, and fed him. He promptly fell asleep.

Then, as I was looking at the videos I’d shot, I realized that my lovely son had been signing milk all through, and the initial delight was not just about calling me, which he was doing quite consistently for a couple of days, but more likely because he thought he could ask for milk and mommy came to feed him. Alas, I imagine I’m teaching him, but guess who was the utter idiot in this episode?

I was so thrilled with his laughter, that I had missed the big picture staring in my face. My son was calling to me and asking for milk!!! No crying, nothing. Interaction. WOW!!!!!!

If I could just do it over, I’d pick him up and feed him immediately once our initial laughing was done so that he would indeed know that asking for milk would get him milk…..

Posting the tribute to my blindness

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPybBjew1a8[/youtube]

and…..
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iaZJuhfbhWM[/youtube]

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Black Friday, Cyber Monday – Coupons and Discount offers!!!

November 25, 2009

If you live in the online world, this is a fabulous time for purchasing developmental products for your child at discounted prices. Absolute money-savers – just grab what suits you below. Some of the most fantastic products to encourage early communication development in babies and toddlers are now cheaper.

I’d love to have any and all of these products (hint, hint….)

Check out these coupons below:

Belle Baby Carriers is offering a 15% discount on all their carriers till the 31st December (use coupon code “holidaybelle”)

Positively organic is offering a 15% off on all their organic fall clothing this November, though I don’t know if this is convenient for people living in Mumbai. The shipping might cost more than the clothes?
Positively Organic

My very favourite Baby Signing Time is offering:
50% off on all purchases over $25 on the 27th November 2009

$15 off on purchases over $50 on the 28th November 2009

Free Shipping on orders over $50 on the 30th November 2009

20% off on all gift sets on the 30th November 2009

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Sunshine after cloudy days

November 25, 2009

Today was a fabulous day for this mother and baby.

Nisarga had been suffering from bouts of inconsolable crying for the last couple of days, which had made him pretty miserable. Would have been funny if it weren’t so heart breaking. He used to look really puzzled by his own crying….

Anyway, that is in the past. Another doctor’s visit revealed that He had put on another 150 grams in 5 days. Not bad. I’m proud of my darling son. His weight is now 4.350kg and climbing.

aji-nisargaAfter many days, he woke up cheerful and bright rather than quiet and unhappy. The highlight of today was that my parents visited, and for once, Nisarga woke up when they came, and spent quite a bit of time cooing to them. My parents were rather hesitant with him, seeing as how they don’t handle him all that often, and he is quite young. Nisarga had no such hesitations and talked to them to his heart’s content. Delighted, delighted grandparents. Till today, they hadn’t had any interaction as such with him.

They were quite thrilled with how much he’s grown and how easily he was talking. He did other stuff too. Smiled a lot, signed milk, which unfortunately wasn’t much understood by my parents for how special it was…

Here’s a pic of mom holding Nisarga today.

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The first week with your newborn

November 24, 2009

The first week passes in a daze of information overload and sleep deprivation. Everything is new, emotional…..

Too much is happening. The body has gone through a tough time, a whole new person is attached to me like superglue for the foreseeable future, too many people coming over to meet, well meaning advice being shoved down your throat, well intentioned help invading my private space, information overload and not enough time to process it, no sleep, joy, anxieties, bringing the baby home……

For me, the first week was actually tougher than the birth.

Categories: Daily Life, newborn.

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