Didn’t want to end the day on a sour note, so I just thought to share an awesome site and a must read for all parents. Aware parenting.
The first time I found this site, it was like coming home. Distressed by my mother-in-law’s insistence to not pick up the baby all the time it cries, and to let it cry because “its good for the lungs”, I was speaking with a friend about how disturbed I was with such an attitude, when she told me about how she disciplines her children by taking away some previlege when they are naughty. This made sense on the surface, but “felt wrong”.
Considering that I was pregnant around when this happened, call it hormones, or inexperience, but I was getting increasingly insecure about my ability to raise my upcoming child, as everyone around me assured me that such permissiveness and listening to the child would only end in unruly children. I had no intention of doing any punishing what-so-ever. I had begun fearing that I may have bitten off more than I could chew by planning a child when I was obviously going to wreck its life as I would be unable to give it the kind of guidance it needed. My plan was more about role-modelling than disciplining. The back up plan was “keep living the love I feel, no matter what”. What seemed like a good plan when I thought about it was falling to pieces with every bit of advice I got on the subject.
When I read this site, I literally felt like I finally came home, if home is where the heart lies. I didn’t disagree with a word in there. It was like the writer simply took my wishes, organized them and wrote them out.
If you have a child, are a caregiver for a child, have a child as a close relative, or have ever interacted with a child, this site, and her books are for you. Its rare to find the insight of emotions we are used to applying to adults applied directly to children. And no, I don’t even know the author. This is complete promotion because of conviction.
For that matter, forget children, and simply live these values with anyone you know, and you will transform your life.